Love letters are traditionally written by hand.
Now that almost all communication is via a keyboard and screen, there can be a deeper significance to hand writing. There is the implication that the missive is out of the ordinary way of things, a special undertaking, using special equipment, for a special person.
There is also the fact of receiving a piece of physical paper, which has marks made on it by the actual hand of the lover. Not just their thoughts, emotions and desires, but the action of their writing, a small portion of their physicality, is inscribed onto the paper.
But the first time I wrote a love letter, a real, honest to goodness, opening to mystery, adult love letter, I wrote it using early word processor software.
I don’t know why I typed it rather writing it out long hand, but what this method did was to put witty, playful parts of me in charge of communication. And that was perfect: for the me I was then, and for that early, flirtatious stage of the relationship.
When I write by hand, I tend to be more serious, more raw, and to talk about deeper, darker things than when I use a keyboard.
I recently took part in an online group, mentored by Fabeku Fatunmise, writing love letters to money. (It’s a practice he shares in his Unfuck Your Money Mojo teletastic, if you’re interested in finding out more.)
And I chose to write my letters by hand, because I knew I was going to be going to some serious, raw, deep and dark places. It aided the flow of feeling, the unfolding of self-discovery, giving shape and voice to thoughts and beliefs long buried, and long denied.
It was a richer, more nuanced, deeper experience than the few times I wrote my love letters on a keyboard.
I found a new understanding of myself, of my history with money, and my current relationship with it. I uncovered beliefs and attitudes of which I had not previously allowed myself to be aware, and also their roots.
Because I wasn’t just journalling, just exploring myself, I was approaching the questions of money and I from love. Seeing through the eyes of love, writing from the heart of love, brings knowledge and understanding not possible any other way.
What difficulty in your life can you approach from your heart today?
Radiating love to you and yours,