Who and what is a ‘woman’… and what does it mean for feminism?

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“The enigma that is woman will therefore constitute the target, the object, the stake, of a masculine discourse, of a debate among men, which would not consult her, would not concern her. Which, ultimately, she is not supposed to know anything about.” Luce Irigaray, Speculum of the Other Woman “…either I don’t have any “self,” …

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Some thoughts on seeking, learning, and initiation in Feri Witchcraft

Feri¹ makes powerful witches.  It does not make healthy witches, kind witches, just witches, pleasant witches, compassionate witches, or any other sort of witches; just powerful ones. What the Feri witch is after initiation is what the Feri witch was before initiation, just with more oomph. Becoming a Feri witch is not a gentle process. …

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Not everything goes at the same speed; not everything goes in the same lane.

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I recently went through a process of discernment around what I do, and if, when, and how I get paid for it.  It began as a conversation with a friend about whether or not there was a fee if I took them on as a one-to-one magical/witchcraft mentor. Around that, I am very clear: I …

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Some opinions on empathy, compassion, and choice

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Every now and again a discussion pops up about autistic people and empathy, often in the context of misunderstandings between autistic and allistic people, and sometimes, regrettably, used as an excuse for autistic men who sexually harass women of all neurological profiles. The discussion usually descends into the familiar round of ad hominem attacks which …

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Smut Slam!

This week, I’m storytelling in a very different environment than my usual. Lavender Menace is bringing Cameryn Moore’s highly successful Smut Slam to Dumfries’s Big Burns Supper… and I’ll be one of the storytellers, sharing a true story of real life sex. Eep! It’s a ticket only, safer space event, but I’ll be recording an …

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